The rather morbid question was put to me yesterday which made me stop for a moment and think … just a little bit. I love it in Mersin. I really do. I’ve got some great friends and am surrounded by some great family (*cough, cough*) but … BUT …
“what would I do if (if???) The Turk passed away?”
Interesting. What would I do?
I am not talking about legalities and all the rest of it. Having worked in the legal field for 25+ years I’ve got a pretty good grasp of the law both in Australia and in Türkiye regarding the death of a spouse. Yes we both have Wills. Yes, both here and in Australia. Do you have one? If not you should. Also all of our properties here in Türkiye are in both names as are our bank accounts. Are yours? If not, they should be. It is not unusual for a Will to be challenged by family members so better to be safe than sorry. Of course it won’t happen to you … but just in case.
Back in Oz I was extremely independent. I looked after myself and didn’t need to rely on others for assistance but here everything is difficult. How would I cope with the day to day crap that goes on here? I may be a Türk citizen but Türkiye is not my original homeland and my Türk language skills are way below par. But even my lost independence and language issue is not my real concern. My real concern – my only concern – is Daughter and when it comes down to it, Daughter is happy here.
Would I uproot Daughter again unnecessarily? Probably not.
Would I move to perhaps a more yabancı friendly area? Tempting, but no.
Would I date? Feck no (unless Brad Pitt tossed that skinny, lippy brunette).
Would I move back to Australia after Daughter has grown up (married Calum Hood) and moved on with her own life? In a heartbeat!
So I guess that’s my answer. For now. But here’s hoping that I don’t really need to think about this for a while at least.
When discussed with The Turk last night his reply was akin to the great Mr Bennett (you know how I love to quote Pride and Prejudice):
“My dear, do not give way to such gloomy thoughts. Let us hope for better things. Let us flatter ourselves, that I might outlive you.”
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