Kramer – noun – meaning a social gathering, a group gathered for a social event , a group of persons with a common interest. A Kramer for me is meeting up with some of my closest friends for lunch or dinner or drinks or whatever reason at all and having an absolutely wonderful time!
Today I had a 4 way texting conversation with my friends in Sydney. What started with a bit of a giggle over social media brought me to the realisation of just how much I want to sit with my friends over a glass or three of a good red (which I certainly do not get here in Mersin) and chew the fat so to speak. I want to listen to their stories. I want to hear their laughter through good times and be there supporting them through their pain. I miss my friends and I want to see them. I miss my family and want to see them.
Don’t get me wrong I am not lonely. I am very happy. I spend my day’s blogging (which takes up an extraordinary amount of time) and when I am not blogging I make half assed attempts at writing my first novel, while taking the dog for a walk, visiting with neighbours, learning what is, in my opinion, the most difficult language in the world and being a wife to the Turk and mother to Daughter who is, right now, behaving like a pre-teen nightmare. Although Turkey is definitely where I need to be right now and this experience is bringing me to where I will be in the future right now I realise just now much I miss my girls and as I frantically typed texts to them today, trying to get all my thoughts out in the space of a few moments between each text, I think about why each of these girls are so important to me.
There is Ris – one of my oldest friends. Do you remember the Blue Light Disco’s together (yes I am that old). You were with me on that first infamous trip to Turkey when I met The Turk. You was there for our first date that wasn’t a date – and our first fight. You were so funny that night when we were running through the back streets thinking the Turk was chasing us. I cannot wait until we can laugh the night away together. You may not know just how much you encourage me, you keep going when I am down with your regular telephone calls and messages (I love it when the phone rings and you are on the line). When we finished our text chat today you finished with the words “I expect to hear some kind of reference to this in your next blog janey xxx”. Happy now Ris?
Then there is Mich – you went and got married without me. Even though you eloped I wasn’t there for you and I feel like I have let you down and missed out on one of your most important life moments. I want to hug you and spend time with your sweetness and your generous heart. Do you remember when I saved you from Guilo by throwing you in my Datsun 200B and driving you home? I drove so fast that my little 200B lifted onto 2 wheels. How excellent was that! No-one has your kindness or your heart. I miss you terribly.
Finally there is Sash – married with kids she is the friend that has worked her ass off and finally the prize is within reach. We did not speak for many years (thanks to an ex-boyfriend who definitely isn’t worth mentioning and no it is not Mr Mediocre) but I am glad that we re-connected and are a close as we are now. When I think of you Sash I think of Flaming Lamborghini’s, the most potent drink that was available to us girls when we went dancing and to our late night dramas. Currently studying law you have fought hard for all that you have. You will finish it goddamn it and will finally get everything that you have ever dreamed of – for sure!
And although not part of this texting party (she doesn’t do social networking) she still deserves a special mention – Carls is possibly one of my bestest buds. She does so much for me although obviously she does not do any recent photos as that photo was taken 10 years ago. She is my contact – she actually was my PA many moons ago – in Sydney. She was my birthing partner, in fact she held Daughter before I did and she was the sponsor for The Turk when he first came to Sydney. I can never repay her for her generosity giving me the life that I have right now (even though I may hate The Turk have the time). The most generous, crazy so and so you would ever want to meet and who will give you more laughs than you could ever imagine. This wonderful girl deserves all the happiness in the world.
God I miss my friends.
Don’t hate me peeps if I haven’t mentioned you in person. Each of you is equally important to me. I know that when I see each of you I will laugh, cry, reminisce, listen to your stories, giggle at your expense – or at my expense – eat, drink and be merry before crying when I say goodbye again.
I cannot wait to get back to Sydney in June. Although it is only for a fleeting moment I will take that time and treasure it in my heart.
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